Trust and Love

So I was just reading a facebook status from a friend of mine(really my mans friend) about insecure girlfriends. Just got me thinking… I responded that no relationship can work without trust. I think most people would agree with that. But, I have seen a few couples that THINK they have that trust and then for whatever reason it comes about that apparently they don’t. That’s when the shit really hits the fan!

Relationships are tough. It is really hard for a woman to trust a man these days. And maybe the same is true for men with women, I wouldn’t know. I want to say that a women needs to know that she is her mans queen and live that, be that. But how is she supposed to know that if he hasn’t told her? Or if they aren’t sure yet.. if its still the beginning and they haven’t really committed yet?

I am lucky. I have been with my man for over 5 years. We seriously committed after the first year and ever since then we don’t have issues of trust when it comes to other males and females. I have fibbed about another thing or two here and there which has gotten me in trouble but never anything related to fidelity.

I think people are afraid to have that conversation. Like if it isn’t SUPER serious yet that it will make it that way. I don’t understand why it cant just be a mellow conversation. Yes, they are committing to each other to a degree. They are committing themselves to only sharing themselves with each other. There is nothing wrong with that. But ladies, that doesn’t mean you are getting a ring anytime soon. It just means that he should be able to go to the club with his boys without you trippin.

I also think there are a lot of dudes who don’t want to have that conversation. So many dudes think they are too fuckin cool. I feel like, everybody wants somebody…so why does everyone have to play it all cool and collected? If you are really diggin on someone, it’s okay.

Tonight I am reminded, again, that I have a fantastic man. We have been through our fair share of shit but in the end we have a solid relationship. We drive each other insane but that’s just how it is. In the end, we will always love each other and we will always be here for each other. I know he isn’t going to go home with some broad from the club cause I know he isn’t going to find one better than me. That is how every female should feel about her man. If he is really YOUR man… you shouldn’t feel the need to trip.

Fellas, if you aren’t out trying to do it to other females then let your chick know that she is your only chick and you intend to keep it that way. Ladies, if you have this conversation with your man… trust him until he actually gives you a reason not to.